Conversational Debate Trickery and Common Courtesy Issues


By Lance Winslow


When debating with someone else who begins using normal human conversational trickery, often they will demand common courtesy if the debate gets heated. Although in reality no one should not expect any common courtesy who uses such tactics, as they move to make the other party look foolish, eat their words or backtrack on a previous comment.

This is because as you disrespect the other party, they want revenge. And common courtesy simply goes out the window. Recently in debating a topic with a Poker Player who is involved in the online gambling business. He attempted to use such tactics, so I explained this to him;

You see, obviously if one is a decent poker card player they do understand all this, so indeed your questioning stating: “I don’t Understand” is also not common courtesy, because you pretend not to understand something that you think you know, that you really don’t know, in order to make a point. Thus hoping to bait the other person (me), which I do not appreciate, into burying themselves into proving your point. This is conversational trickery often used in debate.

Unfortunately, you are debating with someone who has now schooled you in reality of this subject matter and are now burying yourself. Further, these types of manipulations in conversation you are using really are not a very nice way to correspond, because you are trying belittle the next guy and yet all the while in this debate; You Demand Common Courtesy?

Therefore your tactics and demands are disrespectful and inadequate. So as long as one is Demanding Something from me without proper reciprocal response, well, I cannot give it too you, I do not feel common courtesy is owed from me, but you may find others, will in the future, after all you might be a of their customers or they might want something from you. Personally, I don’t gamble, the risk does not make sense mathematically. That is what I think.


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