Top Ten Tips To A Terrific Valentine's Day - For Women in Relationships

So Valentine's Day is upon us yet again, and most of us want to be wooed and romanced by the one that we love. Hopefully that will be the case, but either way, here are some suggestions for how you can do your part to make this day a special day for you and your guy:

1. Send a nice note or treat with him to work - put it where it won't be found until later, if you can. Write something sweet or sexy or both - whatever he prefers (sexy is usually a safe bet!), and let him know that you appreciate all that he does for you.

2. Schedule time to prepare to see him at the end of the day - prepare as though it was your first date. You know what that means: shave the TOP of your legs, make sure your toenails are pretty, remove any unwanted hair, etc.

3. Break out the lacy lingerie. He has seen enough of your comfy-wear. Give him a treat. Men are very visual and this will be greatly appreciated, if only for the brief time you might be wearing it.

4. Wear something sexy on top of the lingerie. Remember about men being very visual? Even if you are not going out, he will like to feel like he is still worth the effort that you put into grooming yourself when you were first dating.

5. If you have children, try to get them to bed early.

6. Give your man time to unwind when he gets home - perhaps a foot rub or just some quiet time with no kids, no demands.

7. Tell him why you fell in love with him and what you love about him today.

8. Do NOT talk about chores, future plans, projects, problems, etc., just for one night. Everything (except an emergency) can wait until tomorrow.

9. Let him know that you think that he is attractive and sexy - try to be creative.

10. Don't Forget: call or e-mail your single girlfriends and wish them a Happy Valentine's Day. Meet them for lunch if you can.

Women like to be pampered on Valentine's Day (and every other day, for that matter!). But there are two people in your relationship, and sometimes it takes one person to start making an effort at romance to get things moving along in the right direction again. Why not let it be you? Remember how fun it was seducing him early in the relationship? Try it again and see how you like it - and see how much he likes it. You may find yourself with a more attentive man on your hands. How great is that?

Dr. Gayla Swihart DeHart, from Vancouver, Canada, is a Professional Coach with a Ph.D. in Psychology. She helps busy professionals manage stress, improve goal-setting and follow-through, and increase life and work satisfaction. More information on Dr. DeHart and her services can be found at http://www.AchieveExcellence.ca